"Real and the Reel smile"

Marriage such a big question to parents children etc.
Finding the best soulmate is the big question. Parents always wants their children to have a secure life and indeed they search from looks to being rich etc
I have observed someone very close to me who was forced to marry a guy because he could afford a secure life for her but in this they failed to see that they couldn't afford a happy life for her.Today when I see her I see the reel smile which is shown as a real smile. He succeeded as a husband and failed as a friend.
Every girls would want a prince charming ya true but more than that she would want a friend in a husband rather than having a secure life a girl would want a happy life.She doesn't want someone who could give her expensive jewellery without a smile she wants someone who could give her a small hair clip also but with a hug.She would want someone with whom she could enjoy even a kulfi.She would want someone with whom walking beside him with those stupid meanigless conversation makes her feel like a princess rather than sitting beside him in a luxurious car.With whom she could dance like she danced with her friend s for small things.
Having a secure life is important but having a happy life is must.Secure life could be found in future but happy life can't.


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